How To Get Over A Break Up

By Leeanne Utiger
Breaking up with a partner, someone you loved or really cared about is never easy. It can be stressful, tearful and an extremely emotional time. Anger, sadness and so many other emotions all come into play at such a time and happening.

However, it is not the end of the world, (even if it feels like it at the time). Things will and do get better. It just may take a little time. Emotions hold a great deal of strength and to heal, you have to work through them all. You need to grieve for what you have lost or given up for whatever reason. It is ok to cry, there is nothing shameful in doing so at all. Even for you men out there, don’t be staunch and hide how you are feeling. You will not be doing yourself any favours. Before you can move on with life, you need to be rid of all feelings regarding the breaking up.

Accept the positive things you shared with the person you broke up with and place them away somewhere safe, where they can if chosen to, be looked upon at a later date with a smile. Also reflect on the negative things and what went wrong. Really grasp these and learn from them. For ultimately we learn and grow from every experience we have in life, including those with another.




Let out your anger if you have any, preferably in a way where you not causing yourself or any other any harm. That is not advisable. Maybe note down your feelings in a diary or a journal. This can in fact feel like a weight being lifted off your shoulders.

An important step in getting over a break-up is letting your friends and family in. Let them be there for you in support, do not shut them out. The more you are alone with your thoughts the more likely it is for you to begin to dwell on the break-up and therefore hinder you from moving on away from it.

Other ways in moving on from a break-up is to keep busy, get out in the fresh air – not only will you be out amongst the community, but also clearing your head with refreshment. The simplest thing as going for a walk, can relax and make you feel more energised than you probably can imagine.

If your friends invite you out – go out. You don’t have to be the life of a party (so to speak), but being around other people will help get you back into social circles, ultimately assisting you in moving on from a break-up.


Always look slightly into the future. Believe in yourself and know that somewhere out there, there is in fact a very special person, just for you. It’s a long road to finding ‘the one’, but it does happen, and think of it this way: Most things in life happen for a reason, sometimes we don’t know what these reasons are – but there will be one. So enjoy the good memories you shared, do not focus too hard on what went wrong, and accept the break-up. Some things are just not meant to be. Yet every second of every day can change what your tomorrow is and could become. Try to focus on this and your strength and willpower to get over the break-up will continue to get stronger and stronger each day.


If you feel you need further assistance, there are in fact many professional services available to aid you in handling and moving on from a break-up. Counsellors are readily available and can be located in any local phonebook in any part of the world. If in fact you prefer to take other methods, which do not involve personal one on one time, there are also many associated websites regarding advice or methods on how to get over a break-up.

Acceptance, courage, strength and willpower. 4 key factors that can all add up to one solution.

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