How To Find A Date

By Alan Leach
Whether you’re dateless in Dallas, single in San Francisco or lonely in Louisiana, there are steps you can take to find that dream date. You might be new to single life, having experienced a recent break up, or you might be undergoing a prolonged dating drought, during which the highlight of your weekend is a DVD and a bowl of popcorn. The singles scene can be depressing for many. Finding a date is not easy, but the following pointers are sure to set you in the right direction to learning how to find a date to share an evening with.

First and foremost, make yourself a marketable product. Wanting a dream date is not enough in itself if your fashion sense is rooted in communist chic. Image is important, and both sexes are more responsive to those that take an obvious pride in their appearance. While women often have this sorted, men are often found wanting. Pay attention to all aspects of your appearance, which means more than just ensuring you’re wearing a clean shirt. Research shows women pay considerable attention to shoes, hair and hands, so these are first three things all men should ensure past the test.



For many these days, online dating provides a quick, easy and relatively stress-free way to find a date. There are numerous online sites where you might be lucky enough to find that like-minded individual. Most sites require you to give a brief bio of yourself, as well as post a recent picture. While stressing your positive points is recommended, be careful not to portray yourself as God’s gift to either sex as the reality is sure to disappoint. While such self-glorification may find you one date, it is unlikely to get you a second!

For those who have no time for online shenanigans, speed dating is another new way to find and meet that perfect partner. Basically, a large group of men and women get together, and each couple is paired off for about 3 minutes. These three minutes are all you have to get to know each other, so be sure to make a good impression! Once the time is up, the couples are rotated and new groups formed. While speed dating allows you to meet as many singles in a short time as possible, this is all about first impressions. Those of you who may suffer from shyness or lack the physically attractive characteristics sought after from opposite sexes may find this is not the best way to finding a date.

More traditional places for meeting and finding a date include bookshops and even supermarkets. Women in particular are adept at analysing the contents of a man’s shopping basket to note his potential as a partner. A man carrying little more than beer and pizza screams single and staying that way! Looking intelligent and thoughtful as you browse the local bookshop may bear fruit. Make sure the opening line and subsequent conversation doesn’t disappoint.

If all else fails there are two final methods on how to find a date. The first of these is to look closer to home. While office romances are often frowned upon, a surprisingly large number of couples get together after meeting at work. The advice here, spend less time pleasing the boss and more time looking for a co-worker with dating potential. Even better, if your boss is single, you can kill two birds!

Finally, give serious consideration to getting back together with an ex. While they may be an ex for a very good reason, scouring that little black book may allow you to find that long-forgotten love. Have a good excuse ready for why you haven’t called in 4 years though!

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